I dislike the pervasive use of binary social constructs when it comes to how women, especially Black women are categorized and portrayed. I mentioned this in a recent post that I wrote about the fabulous Michelle Obama.
These binaries portray women as inherent opponents and ultimately are two sides of the same patriarchal and sexist coin. The labels on the left side are NOT truly compliments.
Ultimately, women are moved back and forth between each construct depending on how well they met or didn’t meet some patriarchal norm, often arbitrary ones that continue to shift depending on the mood of the individual patriarchal misogynist or institutions that proliferate patriarchy and sexism. Ultimately, there is misogynist resentment for all of the labels.
“(too) independent woman” vs. “gold digger”
“strong” vs. “angry”
“queen” vs. “bitch”
“virgin” vs. “whore”
“supportive” vs. “bitter”
I also reject “lady,” “real” being used as an adjective for woman, or any other construct that dictates that a woman’s thoughts, ideas, perceptions, beliefs, decisions or actions must be that which is in accordance with patriarchy or sexism.