So this happened. While many Black men were not on that bullshit from what I saw online after the verdict, some were. *sigh*
1) Black girls’ and Black women’s’ lives are not any more valued in America than Black boys’ and Black men’s. See: 1619 A.D. and forward. Thus, the myth that if Trayvon was a Black girl, George Zimmerman would have been convicted would be so goddamn laughable if it was not painful. We wouldn’t even know about the case because of the intraracial hierarchy applied to Black victims where cis hetero men’s experiences are privileged over any others. Um, read At The Dark End Of The Street. The terror that White men inflicted as beatings and lynchings for Black men was a SYSTEM of rape and beatings for Black women. And, Black women were lynched too. White men have never had to respect Black men OR Black women’s bodies and lives. Period. And slavery would not have been possible without rape, period.
2) I promise, from the bottom of my heart, from the cytosine and guanine connections in the double helices of my DNA that you can care about Black boys and Black girls (and Black children who might not fit the dominant gender binary) simultaneously. Love is not a bank where a percentage must be allocated to patriarchy and all that is left are the scraps of indifference or downright attack. Black girls face challenges also.
Yes, the stereotypes that Black men face differ because of gender. But the absence of those stereotypes for Black women does not then mean that there are just compliments and love in its place. What’s in its place are a whole series of dehumanizing stereotypes and justifications for our rape and death and oppression as well.
One Black guy (I had to block him like months ago, actually) started the "Black women have easy lives compared to Black men" schtick. So that is his takeaway from all of this. Once again, arms unwilling to box with White supremacy, so he comes for Black women instead.
Look, tell Sybrina Fulton her life is easy. Tell Marissa Alexander her life is easy. Tell CeCe McDonand her life is easy. Tell Aiyana Jones and her grandmother who had to bury her own grandchild that their lives are easy. Tell Rekia Boyd and all of the women in her family who had to bury her that their lives are easy. Tell the Black women who are profiled and street harassed by men EVERY DAY in the way Black men are profiled by White men/cops that their lives are easy. Tell the 60% of Black women who are sexually assaulted before their 18th birthday that their lives are easy. Tell the Black women who are 11X more likely to experience domestic violence than White women that their lives are easy. Tell the Black women who GLOBALLY are among the poorest and most abused women in the world that their lives are easy.
How fucking dare you?
And many Black women are fighting through multiple layers of interracial oppression (which includes anti-Blackness from other non-Black PoC at times) and intraracial oppression of Black patriarchy, sexism and misogynoir just to support Black men who posit nonsense like this?
Keep your eyes focused on the issues and actually address White supremacy and racism for once, instead of clinging on to your patriarchy membership cards in an effort to deny our experiences.
How long will we easily support you as you compare, deny, ignore, are obtuse about and erase our experiences? How long do you think the scales can remain so imbalanced?