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Ha! As a mom, Beyoncé is STILL NOT HERE for your gender binaries. I love how they dress her, in general. In this photo, you see this beautiful little girl with her back to you. The symbolism is great. She doesn&#8217;t need your opinion of her to matter, it&#8217;s of no consequence. Then, she is wearing a jersey, something always viewed as &#8220;masculine,&#8221; yet it is a salmon shade (not quite pink, which is ridiculously deemed &#8220;feminine&#8221;), a colour that both women and men wear. Then she has on a super &#8220;feminine&#8221; tutu.
People have hurled all sorts of sexism, misogynoir, and homophobia at Blue Ivy. It&#8217;s disgusting and unacceptable. When I look at this photograph, I see the tiny flame that may very well grow up into a fire that will be a force to be reckoned with, just like her mother. Love it.

Ha! As a mom, Beyoncé is STILL NOT HERE for your gender binaries. I love how they dress her, in general. In this photo, you see this beautiful little girl with her back to you. The symbolism is great. She doesn’t need your opinion of her to matter, it’s of no consequence. Then, she is wearing a jersey, something always viewed as “masculine,” yet it is a salmon shade (not quite pink, which is ridiculously deemed “feminine”), a colour that both women and men wear. Then she has on a super “feminine” tutu.

People have hurled all sorts of sexism, misogynoir, and homophobia at Blue Ivy. It’s disgusting and unacceptable. When I look at this photograph, I see the tiny flame that may very well grow up into a fire that will be a force to be reckoned with, just like her mother. Love it.

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What’s Really Going On With White Feminists’ Critiques of Beyoncé?

Yesterday I posted a photograph of Beyoncé on Ms. Magazine with some probing questions that I have for the article, which included this text:

I will be interested in seeing if the article reveals the nuances of her perspectives (such as ones revealed in her documentary), whether they challenge or affirm patriarchy at times (as she, like many women do both) or will the article solely hold her to an unreachable standard where she has to be bell hooks to be feminist while Lena Dunham, not Gloria Steinem appears to be the bar of White feminism. Again, nonfamous womanists and feminists should not be overly THIRSTY for celebrities to validate feminism. At the same time, I am interested in reading more of Bey’s perspectives on self-esteem, empowerment, confidence, inclusion, sexuality, LGBTQ, friendships and romance/marriage, for example. (I am DEFINITELY not interested her (or anyone) being labeled “unfeminist,” as I wrote about before. That word, specifically, is problematic.)

Silly me; I originally thought the article was an interview. Apparently, it is not. Since yesterday, I learned that: 1) The article is behind a paywall and not accessible to poor women or anyone without a subscription. 2) The Facebook thread for the article is disgusting, as expected. Many of the comments have the typical misogynoir and respectability politics that people seem to have confused for feminism. 3) The thread itself ends with a question, which part of it reads Has Beyoncé ‘earned’ her feminist credentials?” Credentials and feminism should NEVER be used in the same sentence. This reeks of the merge of White supremacy, “legitimacy” and education.

In my post on Storify today, Is Beyoncé Going To Be Critiqued By White Feminists Ad Perpetuum?, I shared some Twitter conversation on the topic and raised six points as to why this critique, in general, seems never-ending and is non-productive, three of which include:

1) White women want to control and police feminism, which is actually quite White supremacist and patriarchal. It seems that theist, cisgender, heterosexual, thin, middle class, White women in the West think that feminism is their plaything and country club. It isn’t. Even White women without some of these privileges still stand firm against Beyoncé in a way that they would not do to any White woman, feminist or not, celebrity or not. They still view Black women as “allies” to their feminism, not actual women or feminists.

2) Feminism tends to have an element of inaccessibility by class and education, which definitely connects to race. By class, of course, Beyoncé doesn’t have this issue. She can access whatever she wants in any space. She has a platform. However, many of those with literacy/formal education privilege do not want Beyoncé to be considered feminist because she is not an academic. Black women have to be bell hooks to be considered feminist, but the bar (which should not even exist for any women) for White feminists is Lena Dunham? Beyoncé has no college education and she was home-schooled for a lot of her education as well. She is not the picture of a “scholar.” But neither was Sojourner Truth. Neither were Black blues singers or Black women who worked as domestics. Many still were the faces of resistance for Black women.

3) Some women, both White and Black, view Black women’s sexuality as automatically deviant, even if that woman is heterosexual, with heterosexual privilege. White heterosexuality is deemed the “norm” of heterosexuality. Heterosexual Black women are still deemed sexually deviant, even if they have the privilege that lesbian, bisexual, queer and trans* Black women do not. Thus, Beyoncé being sexual with her art, despite being in a highly heteronormative, presumably monogamous, heterosexual marriage and being a mother is not “enough” to deem her “respectable.” The problem is respectability politics are constructs of patriarchy, NOT feminism. Then there is the concept of sexuality within art itself. When is it “too sexual?” The fact that Miley Cyrus in a White body is not deemed “dirty” for twerking, yet Black women and our bodies automatically make the dance “dirty” reveals this race-specific misogyny, or misogynoir.

The fact that Jenna Jameson (a White woman deemed “mainstream” now) is a porn star in a patriarchal society and receives less criticism for her sexuality than Beyoncé speaks to the racism involved in the perception of sexuality. Beyoncé has been blamed for everything from teen sexuality and poor health to sex trafficking, and people think this criticism is normal and logical. This reveals how deep racism and sexism runs in our society, as it pertains to Black women, specifically.

A Black woman does not have to pass a certain “bar” of entry that White women hold before she is “acceptable” to feminism and this suggestion is most certainly racist, especially since White women are automatically assumed to be feminist. Even White women who openly hated feminism, such as Margaret Thatcher, has had the label “feminist” placed upon her post-mortem. White women can be considered feminist even when clearly operating in ways that reinforce imperialist White supremacist capitalist hetero-patriarchy, like Thatcher did (examine her damn record, one that is as patriarchal and imperialist as any White male leader), yet Beyoncé is consistently attacked for not meeting some arbitrary standard as White women stand GUARD over feminism?

I’ve also noticed that some Black women and other women of colour do not want Beyoncé associated with feminism in any way, and unfortunately, their reasoning seems to be tied into respectability politics. They think choosing the “positive” side of patriarchal binaries is what feminism is about, such as being a “good” role model and exemplifying “perfect” womanhood, as dictated by theism and patriarchy. This is also a mistake. Even so, it seems that the largest voices against Beyoncé amidst feminist spaces are White women’s voices—probably because there are so many of them and because their voices are amplified due to White privilege. When most of them dissent, it hits a major blog or newspaper. When most Black women dissent it’s via tweets or personal blogs. The access points differ in scope. Even when a Black woman or another woman of colour writes about Beyoncé for a major publication, ironically (or not so) her views seem to match White feminists’ views against Beyoncé. Perhaps this is what it takes to be published.

Critique is important. No one is above it. But this perpetual critique of Beyoncé is no longer productive critique. (I am not sure that it ever was.) This critique is creating arbitrary standards that Black feminists have to meet that White feminists do not. This is racist antagonism towards Black women if they are loved, are considered beautiful and are successful. This is respectability politics and misogynoir masquerading as feminism. This is intellectual elitism. This is double standards—ones where Beyoncé’s experience with capitalism is evil but Sheryl Sandberg’s is good, where Beyoncé’s sexuality is deviant and Lena Dunham’s is empowering, where Beyoncé being married and a mother is just her succumbing to patriarchy but for White women, it’s deemed a powerful choice, especially if coupled with a career.

If White women view Black women as inferior and White feminists view Black feminists as inferior at worst or as “allies,” “sidekicks” or just Black women to “save” not actual feminists, at best, the problem is theirs, not Beyoncé’s or Black women’s at all.

White women need to stop guarding the invisible gate to feminism. It’s not a country club. That was never the point. Leave the gates and hierarchies for patriarchy.

Beyoncé on the cover of Ms. Magazine for Spring 2013. I will be interested in seeing if the article reveals the nuances of her perspectives (such as ones revealed in her documentary), whether they challenge or affirm patriarchy at times (as she, like many women do both) or will the article solely hold her to an unreachable standard where she has to be bell hooks to be feminist while Lena Dunham, not Gloria Steinem appears to be the bar of White feminism. Again, nonfamous womanists and feminists should not be overly THIRSTY for celebrities to validate feminism. At the same time, I am interested in reading more of Bey&#8217;s perspectives on self-esteem, empowerment, confidence, inclusion, sexuality, LGBTQ, friendships and romance/marriage, for example. (I am DEFINITELY not interested her (or anyone) being labeled &#8220;unfeminist,&#8221; as I wrote about before. That word, specifically, is problematic.)
(H/T @anti_intellect)

Beyoncé on the cover of Ms. Magazine for Spring 2013. I will be interested in seeing if the article reveals the nuances of her perspectives (such as ones revealed in her documentary), whether they challenge or affirm patriarchy at times (as she, like many women do both) or will the article solely hold her to an unreachable standard where she has to be bell hooks to be feminist while Lena Dunham, not Gloria Steinem appears to be the bar of White feminism. Again, nonfamous womanists and feminists should not be overly THIRSTY for celebrities to validate feminism. At the same time, I am interested in reading more of Bey’s perspectives on self-esteem, empowerment, confidence, inclusion, sexuality, LGBTQ, friendships and romance/marriage, for example. (I am DEFINITELY not interested her (or anyone) being labeled “unfeminist,” as I wrote about before. That word, specifically, is problematic.)

(H/T @anti_intellect)

What Kelly Rowland Actually Sang Versus What IGNORANT Gossip Blogs Reported

  • What Kelly Rowland sang: I was in an abusive relationship. He was both emotionally and physically abusive. He was mentally manipulative, turning me against my best friend/sister and telling me she was the last person in the world who loved me. I was feeling low at a time when she was doing really well and that led to some feelings of jealousy and devalued self-worth, especially when I felt like there was nobody I could talk to about it. But when I did let her know what was happening, she was right there by my side.
  • What the blogs report: KELLY ADMITS SHE WAS JEALOUS OF BEYONCE IN ANGRY, CURSE-LADEN RANT SHE DIDN'T EVEN WRITE; SHE'S A HATER.

I love Solange! She keeps it 100, whether this thread above, or telling a racist off about her hair or calling out the lack of perspective involved in some music blogging, she brings the truth!

(Source: unimpressed2chainz)

christel-thoughts:

Kelly Rowland…wow

TW: Domestic Violence

This is one of those where the subject matter is much more powerful AND important than the vocal performance. She doesn’t wow with runs or church singing, but raw honesty.

This is an incredibly powerful and honest song. In fact, it felt like she was reading me the story of her life. I immediately started to think of a lot of Black women’s literature over the last century that involves how domestic violence not only physically and emotionally harms the woman who is the victim or survivor, but long before the man starts hitting, he is already isolating the woman and destroying her friendships. This turns the situation in his favor so that she will already feel emotionally abandoned by the time the relationship is physically violent.

I felt so many things while listening to her. It’s important that she revealed that people know NOTHING about the industry or their lives. The idea that beauty or money will protect a woman from domestic violence is a myth. It might change the resources available after the fact, but it doesn’t protect against blows nor does it change what she was feeling inside when it occurred. Her story sounds like Black women’s stories I know in every class category. Painful but important listen.

sonofbaldwin:

Aaliyah loved Janet.

I love them both. Aaliyah is so missed. Her music, especially with Missy and Timbaland, help define my coming of age years; she was born only a few months before I was.

baldblackbeauties:

Grace Jones 1977

She&#8217;s amazing. &lt;3

baldblackbeauties:

Grace Jones 1977

She’s amazing. <3

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Willow Smith hugging Angela Davis! This was at the premiere of the documentary Free Angela and All Political Prisoners. 
Um. My emotions right now&#8230; *sniff* :)

Willow Smith hugging Angela Davis! This was at the premiere of the documentary Free Angela and All Political Prisoners.

Um. My emotions right now… *sniff* :)

(Source: thugzmansion, via unapologeticexistence)

christel-thoughts:

This is really intimate.

I love their love. I recall this part of the Life Is But A Dream documentary. So incredibly sweet. Also, they are singing Coldplay’s song “Yellow” and Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow are their friends, so it’s even more cute that they’re in music and singing a friends’ music.

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Shonda Rhimes and Scandal Remain On Top

I just read a GREAT piece in The New York Times called Network TV Is Broken. So How Does Shonda Rhimes Keep Making Hits? by Willa Paskin. She reports that Scandal now gets 8 million viewers per week. It is the number one drama at the 10pm slot on any night, on any network and with the coveted 18-49 year old demographic. It hangs with the network television big dogs like CSI, and gets more viewers than beloved cable shows like Game of Thrones and Mad Men. It’s also the number one show on network TV among Black people.

The piece also contains an interesting test for people to really examine if racism and sexism are shaping their responses to Scandal and to Shonda Rhimes herself:

Try this blind test: A politician and a workaholic have a passionate extramarital affair that endangers their careers and national security. A scheming Washington insider murders an innocent and makes it look like a suicide to further his own career. A person assumes a false identity after a gruesome incident and uses that identity to build a new life. To protect his legacy, a man preemptively murders a former ally once essential to his success.

These are all descriptions of plot points on “Scandal” — but also on “Homeland,” “House of Cards,” “Mad Men” and “Breaking Bad,” respectively. “Scandal” may not look or feel like TV’s other prestige dramas, in which (usually male) antiheroes mix it up under the oversight of an (almost always male) auteur who has complex feelings about entertaining his audience. Rhimes feels no such ambivalence.

Mmm hmm.

I really like that Shonda Rhimes has spoken out (more than once, actually) on her resentment of the show being called a “guilty pleasure.” She called such a label “ridiculous” and “super insulting.” I find that women and men embracing this label for shows of interest to women just reveals sexism in our society. What man has ever called anything he watches a “guilty pleasure?” I know men that watch the most ridiculous reality shows and wrestling—which is a soap opera, and do not label the shows this way. The irony of Scandal is it is not woman-centric; it’s human centric. “Olivia” gets to be human too, not just a series of stereotypes. And, as the ratings reveals, men watch Scandal too.

Only two more episodes this season!

All Scandal posts on Gradient Lair

Legendary Black women in film/television! Diahann Caroll (77), Cicely Tyson (79), Nichelle Nichols (80), Ruby Dee (90).

christel-thoughts:

crissle:

the beyonce medley

amen

WOW. He is so talented and the video split screen is creative. When he got to “I Care,” I got my LIFE! I enjoy all of the songs that he did but that song really tugs at the heart strings.

Gradient Lair, Around The Web

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Storify

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